The Window

It’s interesting to see the dynamics of children involved in sport. The fights, the jokes, the display of honor, the dedication and the smiles involved.
Sport! I can’t imagine a life without it. I see the benefits it brings for all kids involved. The friendships and the fun as well as the learning through movement as each child plays and performs at their own level. The amount of growth and ability they gain each year is fascinating.

The innocence and beliefs at such a young age seem to go unnoticed and ignored by so many adults. Yes, it’s frustrating at times and annoying but it’s those times of reflection that make you realize that being an adult…. can suck, because as an adult we all create the baggage of politics involved in Youth Sport. Well, maybe not all the time but we sure do lose a lot of the innocence we had as children. I look at the dynamics of boys and sport. Why boys? Because I have 2 and see those dynamics differently then what I believe things were like as a girl growing up.

I watch how boys react to disagreements. They usually lead right back to friendship. The emotional attachment is tight in a sense that friendship overpowers any dislike. One minute a friend, the next fighting over a goal scored during mini hockey but right back at friendship the very next minute! I see this in boys and it fascinates me! As an adult, why can’t we step away and look through that Window and appreciate the same qualities.
Here is the fine line with adults involved in youth sport! The window becomes cloudy and our competitive nature takes over. I believe sport is a learning tool but I also believe there is a competitive nature tied to any game. We can make ourselves feel better by saying “it’s all about the kids and winning doesn’t matter” but how do you explain that to an 8 year old when he is cheering on Team Canada to win the Gold medal or Sidney Crosby who is holding the Stanley cup high over his head! This is winning and how can you not be competitive when at such a young age they understand the outcome.
But….
What if our children learned from each other instead of their coach? What if they practiced together with no adults or did not overhear an adult conversation expressing frustration. Would they complain about the ref? Would they be upset if they lost a game? That would be an interesting window to look through!
As an adult the emotions can win over and frustration sets in but this is where I look through that window and realize that adults need to appreciate disagreements and agree to disagree. The very next minute smile and talk about the weather! Why can’t parents accept that frustration, deal with it and move on without a grudge? Politics in sport would dissolve and Sport for kids would be just that…for kids! I say we all need to be like boys!

Adults will argue. Adults will wear rose colored classes while looking at their children. Adults will be competitive and adults will always want the best for their child BUT the world of sport would be a much better place if each adult & parent would appreciate that not everyone is right. We all come with our own values and beliefs but as long as we agree to disagree our kids will enjoy their sport so much more!
Look through the window and see how your child reacts. Sometimes it isn’t so bad and we are the ones making a big deal of something so small. Let go of the baggage and have some fun!
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